Sex, Love and Politics: A discussion of scandals, monogamy, and memes
You don’t have to be married. That’s right folks, a licensed marriage and family therapist doesn’t think you have to be married. Truth is, I tend to use my other titles more than my marriage and family therapist titles, because of what that license implies. I am not pro-marriage. I am not pro-family. Now that doesn’t mean I am anti-marriage and family, so...
Read MoreCross-Cultural Relationships – In Time, Space and Food – (Part 2)
As I was saying in Part 1, cross-cultural couples have to negotiate an additional level of complexity when in a relationship. More of an awareness of each other’s cultural interpretations of actions can give cross-cultural couples the tools they need to deepen their relationship and understanding of each other. For this piece, lets look at the concept of “space.” As someone who...
Read MoreGay Marriage, Straight Marriage & Mental Health
New York – Gay Marriage Passes, on the eve of Pride – a dream headline So the times, they are a changing, as the song goes, but why anyone would want to be a part of something that only works half of the time. If my internet only worked half of the time, I’d probably think twice about the company I use. If marriage, as viewed in traditional terms, only works...
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Read MoreSurprises and Fun in LTR’s
One of my favorite points in couples therapy is getting to the point where we have moved passed the initial conflict that brought the couple to therapy and can start to work towards making some real movement towards having a positive, self-aware relationship. An exercise we do at this point in our work together is being able to more objectively compare your attitudes and behaviors in...
Read MoreSexless relationships: When the spark goes…
The first two years of a relationship is called the limerence period. This is the time in a new relationship where people are intensely attracted to each other, and what we sometimes call the honeymoon stage. It’s during this time that sexual attraction (passion) tends to be at its peak- we ignore little flaws if we notice them at all. After deciding to commit to the...
Read MoreIf you have to cheat…are you playing the wrong game?
in·fi·del·i·ty n. pl. in·fi·del·i·ties 1. a. Unfaithfulness to a sexual partner, especially a spouse.b. An act of sexual unfaithfulness.2. Lack of fidelity or loyalty.3. Lack of religious belief. Even the definition seems loaded to me- as if it is normal and desirable to have a “faithful sexual partner, ESPECIALLY a spouse”. As a couples therapist, I’m not...
Read MoreBrains. Sexy, sexy brains.
From cnn.com “Perhaps the biggest difference between the male and female brain is that men have a sexual pursuit area that is 2.5 times larger than the one in the female brain. Not only that, but beginning in their teens, they produce 20 to 25-fold more testosterone than they did during pre-adolescence.” (Click for entire...
Read MoreThe Big O (Open Relationship, that is…)
From cnn.com/oprah.com: Do open marriages work? By Karen Salmansohn, Oprah.com <![CDATA[<![CDATA[// ]]]]>]]><![CDATA[<![CDATA[// -1) {document.write('March 23, 2010 -- Updated 1401 GMT (2201 HKT)');} else {document.write('March 23, 2010 10:01 a.m. EDT');}]]]]]]>]]]]>]]> March 23, 2010 10:01 a.m. EDT <
