“Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” Buddhist proverb
A bad dose of the “Anyways”: A few days ago, I found myself relating a story to a friend. I was recounting how I had taken my guitar to a guitar shop for repair, and how it had been returned to me with a ding implanted in the baseboard, that had not previously been there. I was incensed that they had not owned up to the infraction, and had implied that the dent was there...
Read MoreBereavement Group
Losing a loved one can be the hardest thing a human being can go through, especially if it’s a sudden loss and we haven’t had time to prepare for it. not only is losing a loved one probably the hardest thing we can ever go through, but it’s amplified when we have never gone through a difficult loss in the past. My Therapist New York is offering group counseling to help you...
Read MoreManaging Expectations
This is a topic that is always interesting to analyze because the distinction between where we place our expectations, and the way we balance our different expectations. So where do we place our expectations? In reality we place expectations on everything. It’s a human instinct to categorize and label our experiences, and by forming an expectation it’s a way for us to manage...
Read MoreHidden Benefits of Learning a Language
So I was reflecting on my experience with learning Spanish and I recalled something very useful. I find not many people realize a powerful hidden benefit from learning another language is how it relates to self-talk. Now self-talk is a pretty simple concept, but it is has powerful implications for our day-to-day functioning. The way we talk to ourselves is essentially an extension of...
Read MoreREBT Intro # 4
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Read MoreHoliday Cognitive Distortions
Over the Holiday break while visiting family, some of the cognitive distortions that run amok in my family became very clear to me. Don’t get me wrong I love my family and I wouldn’t be the (most-of-the-time-hopefully-good) person I am today if it hadn’t been for their parts in my life. However, as I watch many of my younger cousins getting older and coming of age, it becomes...
Read MoreStarting Therapy: Intro to REBT
Every style of therapy has their own interventions and way of seeing what is going on with the mind. My style of therapy, originated by Albert Ellis, is called REBT or rational emotive behavior therapy. One of the main interventions in this style of therapy is called the ABC’s. The ABC’s allow you to break down your drama and the thoughts about your drama to see how you ended up...
Read MoreREBT Intro #3
Let’s summarize. Something happens. You tell yourself all sorts of BS about that happening, and you feel and react accordingly. That’s how life works. If you’re all upset, then it’s you upsetting yourself. Generally we upset ourselves because we are only accepting ourselves, others and life based on OUR rules, and not on reality. To continue the exercise, and reap some...
Read Morehttp://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/Albert_Ellis#crazy">Albert Ellis : http://www.psychotherapy.net/interview/Albert_Ellis#crazy
People act as fucking babies much of the time all their lives, and I show them how to grow up, be themselves and not give too much of a shit for what other people think of them. Share this:Share
Read MoreMy favorite Albert Ellis interview
Albert Ellis: I was trained in Rogerian therapy but gave that up right away because it’s so goddamned passive. It gets nowhere very fast, and then I stupidly became a psychoanalyst and did psychoanalysis for six years, but I found that was even more passive. You listen for years and you go into every irrelevancy under the sun – your early childhood, which has almost...
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